It’s not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive.
In fact, many abusive partners may seem absolutely perfect in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight, but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.
Domestic violence doesn’t look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing most abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does many different kinds of things to have more power and control over their partners.
If you’re beginning to feel as if your partner or a loved one’s partner is becoming abusive, there are a few behaviors that you can look out for. Watch out for these
red flags and if you’re experiencing one or more of them in your relationship contact or call Voices of Truth 978-230-6446
Telling you that you can never do anything right
Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away
Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
Controlling every penny spent in the household
Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses
Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you
Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do
Preventing you from making your own decisions
Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children
Preventing you from working or attending school
Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets
Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE
1-800-799-7233 | 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
Where can I go for help?
Take your safety seriously and dial 911 at the first sign of danger! There are many helpful resources depending on your needs. We highly recommend the following resources:
24 HOUR HELPLINE 1-508-755-9030
SPANISH AMERICAN CENTER DV SERVICES
Emergency Shelter in Massachusetts: SafeLink
Massachusetts: National Domestic Violence Hotline
PATHWAYS FOR CHANGE
24 HOUR HOTLINE 800-870-5905
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